The No Dead Mothers Rule
Or whose emotional baggage is this?
I have a rule; ‘Don’t date guys whose mother died or left them when they were young.’ The reason I won’t do this is that they often have issues around women leaving them, they are unsure how to relate to a grown arse woman and the have a fear of intimacy and commitment because they fear that you too, will leave them.
Sounds reasonable, right?
I have dated a couple of guys who lost their mother in one way or another when they were young and they displayed these traits and ultimately broke my heart because no matter what I did, I couldn’t fix what was broken in them.
So I created the ‘No Dead Mothers’ rule. Imagine I am on a date with a delightful man and the subject of parents comes up. He tells me his mother left him when he was eight. I decide then and there, that there will be no more dates. Who has the most baggage? Well, we can’t know what sort of baggage he is lugging around but we can see mine clearly labelled and sitting right there in the open. I don’t trust men without mothers.
When we think of emotional baggage we think of those disastrous people who turn up to the relationship with a lot of damage, dragging around tons of hurt, pain, and dysfunctional relationship styles.
